Have you ever been thinking in these terms…?
When I land with this promotion at work, then I’ll be happy…
When only I start making more money, then I’ll feel more secure…
When only I succeed with an important project, then I’ll be satisfied…
When only I buy a house and an expensive car, then I’ll be rich…
When only I get married, have kids, then I’ll feel loved…etc.
If so, you’re not alone. 🙋♀️
Such ideas can leave us hanging somewhat in a temporary position. 🙃
We may be waiting for tomorrow or next year for things to get better and in the meantime not really enjoying where we’re in a given area of life. We make our happiness conditioned.
This is called: an arrival fallacy.
It’s an illusion that once you reach your goal or destination, you’ll reach lasting happiness.
Of course, crossing the finish line does make us happy, but the euphoria doesn’t last very long. Right?
That’s why it’s so damn important to enjoy your journey and honour your progress towards your goals.
“Happiness is not about making it to the peak of the mountain nor is it about climbing aimlessly around the mountain; happiness is the experience of climbing toward the peak.” Dr. Ben-Shahar, Harvard University
Process is the king, not the end point. 👑
Now, It’s time for you:
1. Is there an end goal that you’ve been chasing hoping it will flood you with happiness?
2. In which area/s of your life do you need to honour more your progress?
Let me know in the comments.
Depending your happiness on external objects or other people will make you happy for a while, but what can sustain your happiness over a long period of time is your personal growth. Who will you become, what will you learn, and how will you contribute are the most fulfilling on the life journey. Because long-lasting happiness is an inside job.
Enjoy every step along the way.
I believe in you and your dreams.
With love and excitement,